EDIT: i sincerely apologise to the people that read the first version of this thread, which was much more aggresive in tone. i was very heated at the moment as i deemed what admins said to Bluba's current RfC as unfair, and thought that i could get my point across with the way i worded it. it clearly didn't and won't, and i shouldn't have worded my thread in the previous ranty style. i still stand by the point i expressed in my thread though so i'll reword it to remove the heated statements. again, sincere apologies for the inconveniences it can cause, and could have caused.
people telling RfCs to close is an occurence i've seen sometimes and while most of the time it's harmless, i personally consider it a problem. in this discussion i'd like to calmly adress it. you don't have to follow what i say, i can't force you to do anything the way i want, but you might want to reconsider it. take your time to read and thanks in advance for the time.
since some time, i've seen the problem, the most common example would be in this thread, with the three admins (DarkMatterMan, TigerBlazer and King Dice) in the opposition. it's the bit of "this needs to be closed" that's implied in there (and other RfCs across here) that i don't agree with. granted, it can be legit if the theme is controversial (like the suicide RfC), offensive, or overall invalid for qualitipedia, but for RfCs that express genuine ideas, especially when it's just because you don't agree with the RfC, that i don't think it's the best course of action. it's frankly, an insult, to the author of the RfC, and not the best look for the people telling the RfC to close.
now, normal users saying this doesn't matter as much as they don't have rights over the RfC... not as much as when staff does it at least. that's my main concern. i don't think the innocent intent of the admin matters much, when the author of the RfC knows the admin is able to close the RfC, and saying it should be closed practically imposes that kind of fear, and potentially deeming the purpose of the RfC to comment, invalid. i also think it's inappropiate and uncalled for, because the author never (and shouldn't) expected to be told that their RfC should be closed. that's why i think admins especially should stop randomly telling RfCs that they should get closed because of the reasons expressed. if we want to move forward then we shouldn't be pushing the example and putting fear on constructive people, or people with the intent of genuinely being constructive, that their RfCs run the risk of being closed just for a disagreement.
that's all i had to say. note that i don't intend to tell people this is the new way to think that they're forced to follow, no, this is a call for reconsideration, especially to the staff. you can take the word or leave it. and i again apologise for the first version of the discussion. feel free to tell me what do you think about this.